Sunday, January 20, 2013

The Con


The Laundry, Zikhron Ya'alov, Israel, November 2012, Nikon D600 with FX 28-300mm VR lens, 
200mm, 1/250 sec @ f5.6, ISO 100, 0 EV, no flash © Steven Crisp  [Click on the photo to enlarge]

So what do you think of this photo?  Nothing special -- just some guy hanging out the laundry to dry, right?  I'm afraid you've been conned.

I looked closely at this photo, trying to remember where (and why) I took it.  It wasn't until I went back to my photo collection to find the adjoining photo (below), that I remembered that is not a real person -- just a life size photo.  Boy, look at those hands.  To me they look like the must be coming out of that window.

The Laundry?, Zikhron Ya'alov, Israel, November 2012, Nikon D600 with FX 28-300mm VR lens, 135mm, 1/250 sec @ f5.6, ISO 100, 0 EV, no flash © Steven Crisp  [Click on the photo to enlarge]

So what's the point?  Just this.

The Con game is being run everywhere.  And our senses are limited in what they can discern.  Particularly when we are expecting to see (or not see) something.  Can you keep an open mind as you go through life, and try to avoid (or at least identify) your own biased perceptions?

That person isn't who you think he is.  Nor is your neighbor.  Nor that friend that has gone off the political deep-end.  Check your own biases at the door, or the e-mail, and receive them with sincerity and honesty and openness, and then see what you can discern about their nature.  

Life is so much easier when we are not defending our positions, validating our preconceived notions, and trying to control the outcome of each interaction.   Just let it be.

2 comments:

Honeybee said...

Nice pictures paired with great words. More people need to listen with an open mind. It is okay to defend your position as long as it is not done in hate and anger. You may be able to open someone's eyes as well as them opening yours. Again...love the message. :)

Steven Crisp said...

Ah yes, the whole hate and anger thing. So much a part of the human condition, it would seem.

Yes, I can think of nothing better than to hold compassion for others whenever choosing one's words or actions.

I guess the question for most people to ask themselves: is it more important for me to prove I'm right than to be kind in this situation?

Funny thing, by demurring on "rightness", it may lead one to "hear" the other, to find a spark of empathy, that can rekindle a friendship, or awaken some inner wisdom on just what is appropriate for this situation.

Thanks Honeybee for your thoughtful and kind words.